The Christmas holidays are upon us and for many, this is not always an enjoyable experience. Whether you’re sipping a drink at a friend’s home, sharing a turkey dinner with family, or attending the office party, use these tips for a more successful experience.
2 Seek out a friendly face. At least upon arrival to the event, and whenever you begin to feel that creeping lack of confidence, navigate toward the people you enjoy most. This might be someone you know well or a stranger with an easy smile who seems to be popular. If she’s popular, it’s most likely because she has effective communication skills—she puts those around her at ease.
3 Be a polite listener. This means, check your body language. Face the individual who is speaking. Make eye contact. Nod occasionally to let him know you are listening and understanding. Do not engage in distracting behaviour such as answering your phone, repeatedly looking away, cleaning your nails, etc. And do not cross your arms during the conversation; it looks disrespectful.
4 Be prepared. Bring stories of your happy or humorous holiday activities or situations and look for the right opening to share them. Others like to talk about their experiences too, so this is a good topic to bring up this time of year.
5 Be patient. The nature of a holiday gathering makes it difficult to have long, in-depth conversations with any one person. Others may join in while you’re chatting with someone, children will interrupt, you (or the other person) may be called away to help with a task or meet someone. Don’t expect to handle a sticky business or personal situation at a holiday social event because your chats will generally be brief. Be flexible and be patient.
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Credit: This content is based on an article in Toastmaster Magazine December 2017
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